I don't really know what's "normal"--I mean, my experiences with this have been all over the map. But what I do know is, employment isn't "till death do us part." A job is a mutual agreement between employer and employee and can be broken at any time if one party feels that the job is no longer meeting their needs, or has found a situation they feel will better meet their needs. The other party may feel like some sort of emotional betrayal has occurred, but it hasn't, even in a job that heavily deals with human relationships and emotional issues.
I've quit 3 "real jobs" in my life. At the first one, quitting was commonplace so no one batted an eye. At the second one, they tried to bully/manipulate me into staying, which only increased my desire to leave. And at the third one (the paper) they gave me a loving sendoff and I've kept in touch with them ever since. I don't count W as a fourth one--that was a misstep, understood as such all around.
It is always a mixed set of emotions that accompanies leaving a job you've had for a long time, but you wouldn't be leaving if you didn't feel it was ultimately the best choice for you. Apart from W, I've never left a job without some feelings of worry and regret, but I think that's also normal and doesn't mean you're wrong to leave.
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Date: 2008-01-07 06:44 pm (UTC)I don't really know what's "normal"--I mean, my experiences with this have been all over the map. But what I do know is, employment isn't "till death do us part." A job is a mutual agreement between employer and employee and can be broken at any time if one party feels that the job is no longer meeting their needs, or has found a situation they feel will better meet their needs. The other party may feel like some sort of emotional betrayal has occurred, but it hasn't, even in a job that heavily deals with human relationships and emotional issues.
I've quit 3 "real jobs" in my life. At the first one, quitting was commonplace so no one batted an eye. At the second one, they tried to bully/manipulate me into staying, which only increased my desire to leave. And at the third one (the paper) they gave me a loving sendoff and I've kept in touch with them ever since. I don't count W as a fourth one--that was a misstep, understood as such all around.
It is always a mixed set of emotions that accompanies leaving a job you've had for a long time, but you wouldn't be leaving if you didn't feel it was ultimately the best choice for you. Apart from W, I've never left a job without some feelings of worry and regret, but I think that's also normal and doesn't mean you're wrong to leave.